Clare Mellor
Funeral Celebrant in West Berkshire



My friend Stephanie Hartick who is the creative director of Art Branches, recently invited me to contribute a poem to the “branchesabound” blog. on their website. Art Branches is a no-profit CIC which provides creative workshops based in the natural environment for people with mental health problems. Their services are regularly socially prescribed by GPs and mental health services in East Anglia.

Stephanie was very interested in my work as a funeral celebrant during lockdown and thought that it would be a good way for me to “process” what it had been like. “I’m no poet” I thought, but one evening within the space of 1 hour I had written 3…here they are;

1.
Covid funeral Haiku
To an empty room
As she told their story
The clean air vibrated

2.
The funeral arranger
The widow was strung up with tension
The son’s body like a rag doll
he held his mother’s hand as if with superglue
-no tears-the air felt like treacle.
“what sort of coffin would you like?”…

3.
Acronyms

PTSD
PPE
BA 2.75.2
Ratios, numbers, percentages
“look after yourself…” they said.
We were all Marcel Marceau feeling the invisible walls closing in.
I was lucky, I could get out for 30 minutes
Music in the car on the way home from the crem.,
to those invisible walls carrying the grief of the world on my shoulders
and forever in my heart.
Ratios, numbers, percentages
“look after yourself…

To see all the poems and even contribute please use the link below.
https://branchesabound.blogspot.com/?m=1
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Typical e-mail conversation:

Dear C

Please find attached V3. I am not quite happy with my Committal words, more thinking needed, but I am sure you get the gist. Please answer the text in red!

Kindest regards
Clare.



Hi Clare

That’s fantastic thank you, yes please mention G being laid to rest as well.
C.



Dear C

I expect you are back home now "back to reality" as the song goes...? Anyway, attached is the presentation script, I hope I have corrected the spelling mistakes!

It was a privilege to lead the ceremony for D and to hear her story and I am sure you will all have had a good time continuing to share memories afterwards. It was lovely to see the chapel so full and that the sun shone, I expect you were all imagining D soaking up the sun in her garden.

(X spoke to me briefly saying she thought you would be very good at being a celebrant so...if you are interested, I would really recommend the Humanist UK training. There is very little financial reward for the time spent but it is truly rewarding work).

If you would like to leave me any feedback, click on the link below and you are then eligible to get 1 year's free membership of Humanist UK!

Kindest regards
Clare